Be an active listener. Your friend will feel more appreciated and recognized, and you may learn some things you didn’t know about him. When you know how to really listen to a person, you will understand them much better and you will empathize more deeply.
Reaffirm and clarify what you heard. This step can save you a lot of pain, especially if you are in an emotional conversation. Instead of assuming you heard correctly, paraphrase what you heard and ask for clarification: “Okay, let’s see if I heard you right. I heard you say, “Is that right?” Then let your friend explain what he wanted to say again.
Encourage each other even when you met on a dating site and talk more online. Ask questions. It’s not just about “what did you do today?” or “What do you want to eat?” Asking meaningful questions can enrich the conversation between the two of you. It will help you to encourage each other to share your feelings and thoughts. Studies have shown that asking deep questions improves your intimacy and the feeling that you are in love. Avoid preaching. It’s tempting to give advice to others, especially when you’re in a relationship. If someone has asked you for advice, then offer it. Otherwise, don’t say anything, because the person may not trust you to open up more.
Sometimes, when people ask for advice, what they are really looking for is a person who will listen to them and understand them without judging them in any way. If you think this is happening to your friend, ask, “Do you just need someone to listen to you, or do you want me to try to find a solution?”
Stay away from “should”. Nobody likes to be told “You should do this” or “You should do this.” It can make them feel stupid. Instead, try something like “How about ?” or “Have you tried ?” These details will help you have a better relationship, and your partner will definitely love you more.